Keeping Your Love Alive After Childbirth
Five weekly classes
Held at South Bay Home Birth Collective in San Jose
Five consecutive Saturdays 4pm - 5:30 Starting this January 2018
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for all five meetings
The purpose of our class will be to provide a safe environment to explore the realities of what it means to keep your relationship alive while embracing your new experience as parents. Each class will begin with a short talk providing a framework for discussion. The bulk of the class will then focus on you and your partner interacting as a couple. No embarrassing exercises but be prepared to spend some time observing your relationship in action.
Class Series Overview
Week One - Getting to know your partner as parent
We will take time to identify the personal transformations taking place as women ascending towards motherhood and as men ascending toward fatherhood. Discovering the nature of this transformation will be unique to each of us yet we remain responsible for communicating these changes to our partners. Models will be provided to assist us in sharing our new needs and desires in a spirit of inquiry.
Week Two - Be Curious not Furious
The art of listening requires an ability to put aside one's agenda, dig deep, and rediscover the innate curiosity that brought the two of you together in the first place. Taking care of your partner and self while in conflict requires a familiarity with the emotion of anger: how it rises and how it resolves. Everyone needs help to listen to things they don't want to hear.
Week Three - Making requests. Saying Yes. Saying No.
Being direct with our partner requires an emotional honesty that may not have been shown to us by our parents. We will learn a very simple process for making requests without using guilt, blame, or fear as a tool to get our way. Responding requires a mindfulness of our limits and of the situation at hand. Practicing how to stay connected even while asserting one's limits will be explored.
Week Four - Parenting the inner children in your home
The gift of parenting is that it allows us to re-parent our own selves. How might your partner give themselves a “missed experience” through their interactions with your child? We will take a look at the missing experiences that rule how you form your parenting team.
Week Five - Your body and your love life
We will end our class with a chance to bring our new skills together. Being in touch with our senses, communicating our desires effectively to those we love, being curious about their response, accepting what is, and seeking new ways to experience connection...these skills will give common ground to the journey ahead.
About the Facilitator
Jonathan Bartlett LMFT #48223
As a relational therapist and father of two daughters, Jonathan holds a unique view on attachment parenting. The bond between caregiver and child are but one element in the trifecta that makes for a secure base. Infants are also intensely attuned to the attachment issues taking place between parents. Thirdly, infants are hardwired to perform and require opportunities for autonomy at every stage of their development. Balancing attunement, romance, and play into our lives as parents makes the hard stuff worthwhile.